Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.
Sure, I'll pick you up.
I'll bring it over.
You can have it.
Yeah, I'll be there.
You're like family to us.
I'll support you.
I'm going to give you this.
These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him... a lying tongue... A false witness that speaketh lies...
(Read "Did God Justify Lies?" here at creationliberty.com for more details.)
But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil.
Our country has fallen into a nation of contracts and lawyers due to a lack of attention to the Scriptures. Ask your grandparents: Decades ago, your word and a handshake was all that was required. No contracts. No lawyers. However, as America strays from the Word of God and liberty anchored in our Lord Jesus Christ, and we forget the importance of our word, we no longer speak the language of the Bible, but now we must be ruled and enslaved by men and money. Our agreement to do something in America has to be bound by signed contract and law (and I've watched Christians use lawyers to communicate with each other) because we cannot be trusted to keep our word as God has commanded us and shown us by His example.
Let your 'yes', be yes. Let your 'no', be no. If your 'yes' to someone turns out to be a no, when you already told them 'yes', that is EVIL. If your 'no' to someone turns out to be a yes, when you already told them 'no', that is EVIL.
If you tell someone, "I am going to do this," and you don't do it, you LIED! That makes you a LIAR. We have all done this to someone else, and others have done this to us.
From personal experience, I have traveled and spoken to Christian churches in multiple states, and most of the time we have a handful of Christians come up afterwards and give us their word they are going to volunteer, donate, etc, but only a tiny percetage of them have done what they said they would do. There is no sugar-coated way around it: They LIED in front of God and everyone else.
In the book of Acts, God judged those who lied to give themselves a benevolent social status. A man named Ananias, and his wife Sapphira, sold some property, kept part of the money, and gave another portion of the money to the Church of Christ. This was pefectly fine for them to do, but they LIED about it and said they gave everything to the Church of Christ.
Peter said, Ananias, why hath Satan filled thine heart to lie to the Holy Ghost, and to keep back part of the price of the land? Whiles it remained, was it not thine own? and after it was sold, was it not in thine own power? why hast thou conceived this thing in thine heart? thou hast not lied unto men, but unto God. And Ananias hearing these words fell down, and gave up the ghost: and great fear came on all them that heard these things.
Be not rash with thy mouth, and let not thine heart be hasty to utter any thing before God: for God [is] in heaven, and thou upon earth: therefore let thy words be few.
Better is it that thou shouldest not vow, than that thou shouldest vow and not pay. Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin; neither say thou before the angel, that it was an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thine hands?
A common excuse: "Well, I didn't say 'I promise I'll do it'..." Did you know Jesus Christ never said those words either? He let his 'yea', be yea.
For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost.
Is his mercy clean gone for ever? doth his promise fail for evermore?
Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Countless times, my wife and I have been hurt by our fellow Christians who have taken no consideration of the things they have told us. We have taken great pains and effort to keep our word to them, and have gone out of our way in prepartion for them to keep their word to us, but when the time came, and our hard work and money were poured into what they told us they would do, we would find out they don't even remember telling us they made us a promise, and most of the time, they don't even care. How is it we expect to be able to study and understand God's Word, and to do that which He has called us to do, when we can't even do the simple things we tell one another we will do?
A lying tongue hateth [those that are] afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin.
Whosoever hateth his brother is a murderer: and ye know that no murderer hath eternal life abiding in him.
-1 John 3:15
Just as God is perfect with every word He speaks, should we also not be careful about every word that comes from our mouths?
But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.
- "I forgot about it..." -- Did you give your word?
- "But I had something come up..." -- Did you give your word?
- "They took care of it on their own..." -- Did you give your word?
- "I forgot I said it..." -- Did you give your word?
- "We just didn't have time..." -- Did you give your word?
Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.
Let's start looking inward, and next time, before we tell someone we are going to do something, let's carefully consider God's Word, and be not rash with our mouths. Keeping our word should be as important us as the ten commandments, because through keeping our word, we keep His Word, and the love of God is perfected.
But whoso keepeth his word, in him verily is the love of God perfected: hereby know we that we are in him.
-1 John 2:5
The elders which are among you I exhort... Feed the flock of God which is among you, taking the oversight [thereof], not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind; Neither as being lords over [God's] heritage, but being ensamples to the flock.
-1 Peter 5:1-3