Well, it's not that he suggested both that was the problem, but it's that he suggested that maybe he needs to change, and then 0.4 seconds later said she needs to adapt, and then spent a long time explaining her problems, instead of looking inwardly at himself first. He gave no explanation on why "maybe he needs to change," which means they were words of vanity. He didn't mean them, and therefore it was deception, not reasoning.